23 August 2014

5 Better Steps to Overcoming Book Grief

Grieving a book, I think, is just as realistic as grieving a deceased person or grieving the loss of your childhood. It's intense, it's painful, and it can be overwhelming.

It isn't the worst hurdle you'll have to overcome in life, but it's important that you confront your emotions instead of forcing yourself to move on much sooner. (As a person who has been affected by anxiety and phobia issues, I know how true this is.)

But how can you do it? Well, here are a couple of steps to help you understand the process and prevail in undergoing it.

Image via Ashly Lorenzana

Acknowledge it.

What's vital, first and foremost? It's vital to grasp your emotions. Take them by the throat and tell yourself, "I am here. It is okay to feel the way I feel. One day I won't feel this way any longer."

Understand it.

You might be convinced that your book's author did this to you on purpose. And, truthfully, he or she might have, particularly because plot twists and character deaths are some reasons why books sell so well. (Think about it: have you ever read a good book that didn't involve a single character's demise? Probably not.) As human beings, we are pre-programmed to feel--whether that means experiencing negative emotions like sadness, or interpreting a normally-positive emotion as a negative one. In this case, the latter holds true; chances are, you're grieving so heavily because of your empathy towards a character.

Be grateful.

If you're upset over a book, that likely indicates that it was a really good book. How would your life be different if you'd never read that book? Maybe your old perspective would seem a little outdated in comparison to the one you have now, the one that book gave you. Your life would be different if the story's author hadn't written anything for you to read, huh? And, what's more, there are people in the world who can't read. Unless they gain the opportunity to learn how to read in the future, or unless somebody literate is willing to read the book to them, they might never know what you know thanks to that book.

Always remember, that book's author loves having fans like you. He or she appreciates you, and not just because you're handing him or her a profit.

Consider re-reading.

Sometimes the most effective way to deal with book grief is to give yourself a second chance. Re-read the story, maybe a little slower this time, and allow yourself to ponder everything you didn't last time. Maybe you'll find new details. Maybe, and hopefully, you'll be able to better accept your characters' fates.

Keep going.

Shut your eyes and take a deep breath. Think of how far you've come and how far you have the potential to go forward. Close the book, hold it tightly, and convince yourself to create an enthusiasm for the next one on your reading list. (Your favourite characters will still be there. The difference is, so will your new favourites.)

Have you ever needed to overcome book grief? What did you find helpful? Tell me about it in the comments!

1 comment:

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